I speak to a lot of people in a lot of different contexts about sexual consent. I always advocate for asking before you engage someone in any kind of physical contact. A lot of people tell me that they don't like to directly ask, especially when it comes to kissing or sex. It spoils the mood, they tell me. And it's awkward.
Here's the thing, though. If you do want consent (which I hope you do!), and if you don't directly ask your partner if what you are doing is OK with them, then the main way you can know whether you have their consent is by their body language. But body language is notoriously unclear.Read More